Why Clients Stress You Out & What To Do About It
Why Clients Stress You Out & What To Do About It
By Brianna Hall
Let’s just go ahead and say the quiet part out loud:
Clients can be a lot.
And when you’re the face of the business, or holding the operations together behind the scenes, you feel every bump in the road like it’s your fault. Whether you’re running a preschool, a marketing agency, or a consulting business — if you care deeply about your work (and your people), client conflict doesn’t just stress you out… it eats at your entire nervous system.
My First Wake-Up Call: The Playschool Parent Meltdown
I’ll never forget my very first official client at Little Poppies Playschool.
She lived in a million-dollar house. Had the Pinterest-perfect life from the outside. And yet—she refused to pay on time, showed up late constantly, and (I kid you not) dropped her toddler off with no underwear, no diaper, and a half-eaten chocolate bar in hand.
One morning, she stormed into the preschool screaming at me — in front of other parents — because she didn’t like how I had communicated our payment policy. I was 28 years old, running a new business, trying to create something beautiful for families. And there I was, being screamed at, humiliated, and completely blindsided.
I cried in the bathroom after she left. I questioned whether I was cut out for this. I felt so much anxiety and guilt that I couldn’t even sleep that night.
But here’s what I’ve learned over the last 10+ years in business, operations, and marketing…
Clients Aren’t Out to Get You — They Just Want to Be Heard
That mom wasn’t truly mad about a diaper. Or a payment plan.
She wanted control. She wanted to feel seen. She wanted to be right.
And you know what? Most clients do.
Even the most chaotic, unreasonable, entitled-seeming ones.
When something goes wrong, here’s what they don’t want:
A defensively written email explaining your policy
A play-by-play of how they misunderstood
To feel like you’re more interested in being “right” than being of service
What they do want is an acknowledgment, a solution, and a feeling that you care.
The Emotional Toll of Doing the Work You Love
In almost every business I’ve run — from preschool to marketing firm — client stress has shown up. I’ve cried over negative feedback. I’ve spiraled into shame when a campaign didn’t hit. I’ve sat in my car after meetings trying to catch my breath after a confrontation.
But here’s the hard truth:
You can’t prevent client stress entirely.
What you can do is create a process for how to respond with clarity, professionalism, and care.
The Formula: Acknowledge. Affirm. Act.
When a client is upset, even when they’re wrong, your job isn’t to defend yourself.
Your job is to make it right.
Try this 3-step method I swear by:
Acknowledge their concern.
"Thank you for bringing this to my attention. I hear your frustration and I can see how that was upsetting."
Affirm their experience.
"You’re absolutely right that clear communication is important. I want to make sure this doesn’t happen again."
Act with a solution.
"Here’s how I plan to fix it — starting this week, I’ll send out payment reminders 48 hours in advance. Let’s also hop on a quick call to align expectations moving forward."
It’s not about rolling over or being a pushover. It’s about being a leader, a problem solver, and a steady voice in the chaos. That’s what clients remember.
Want Happy Clients for Life? Let Go of Being Right
When you let go of the need to win an argument, you win something bigger: trust.
Yes, there will be messy days.
Yes, clients will still occasionally scream in your face (hopefully not literally).
But if you respond with empathy and actionable solutions, you become the kind of business owner clients stick with for years.
And you get your sanity back in the process.
Running a business is not for the faint of heart.
But with the right boundaries, the right mindset, and a few deep breaths—you’ve got this.
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I can help. Whether you’re starting out or scaling up, I offer strategic consulting, marketing support, and temporary ops management to help you run your business with more ease (and less stress).
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